let’s stop making jokes about girls and start making jokes about white boys
here i’ll start
*white boy voice* chill out man it was just a joke
[walks into class 10 minutes late with a can of Monster] sorry I’m late I got frontpage on Reddit
[wipes cheeto dust off onto cargo shorts] so if you support gender equality does that mean it’s ok to hit women now?
|I can tell you right now that ‘most people dislike me’ and ‘I tend to piss a lot of people off’ are complete bullshit, emily. Every day, I have at least 10 people coming up to me to see what's wrong with you - because they genuinely care, no less - and at least 3 people asking me what they can do to stop you from thinking that they hate you. I dont know anyone who hates you.|
but then i cant help thinking maybe if they said these things to me i wouldnt be so paranoid all the time
i dont want a boyfriend i want a boy who worships the ground i walk on, tells me im cute, buys me things, and makes out with me a lot
Patriarchy backfiring on men is not sexism against men.
the thing is though i dont think i’ve ever met a single dude who genuinely made an effort not to be misogynistic but still actually takes offense when a woman says “urg, men”
and pretty much every white person who is able to recognise and unpack their privilege gets what i mean when i say “urg, white people”
and straight people who are legit supporters do not get huffy when i say “urg, straight people”
and like im cis, but when trans people say “urg, cis people” im not horribly wounded
because when you’re aware of the system you also understand that it’s not about you
and i understand that nobody hates me for being cis, they hate the power that i have over them because im cis (or light-skinned, or able-bodied, etc)
like remember that quote that was like “no, i didn’t say all white people, but since that’s what you took away from it, yes, all white people”? pretty much, the more angry and confrontational you are about blanket comments, the more those comments are directed at you
which makes them a really convenient and effective thing
|May I be worried about you?|
is that the sort if thing that needs permission because most people don’t ask
|Have you considered the idea that no one actually hates you, and you just think they do? Its incredible how easy it is to believe everyone hates you, when in reality, they're just as stressed and tired as you are, and dont have the time or the effort to deal with other people. Ask people if they hate you, and believe them if they say no. It takes something extreme for someone to hate someone, and I severely doubt that you've done that.|
I’m aware it’s an exaggeration, but ‘most people dislike me’ and ‘I tend to piss a lot of people off’ are entirely true.